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Why You Should NEVER Ask for Help
In her introduction to Reinforcements: How to Get People to Help You, Dr. Heidi Grant drops some “kind of” funny knowledge: Social neuroscience studies suggest that people process pain from interacting with others (especially being treated unfairly or being rejected) the same way they process physical pain. They also treat the possibility of rejection like pain, namely by doing everything they can to avoid it.
People are so afraid others will reject their requests for help that they find all kinds of ways to get out of doing it, including clinging to erroneous thoughts and beliefs like the ones we’ve outlined below.
"The real golden rule is trust no b****."
Dropping truth: That’s only the golden rule if you’re a control freak. According to Mayday! Asking for Help in Times of Need author M. Nora Bouchard, clinging to control leads many people to shun asking for help.
Tip: Just try letting go, even a little. It might make you happier.
"People hate it when others ask them for help."
Dropping truth: Lies. People hate asking for help. Bouchard says most people actually enjoy giving it.
Tip: Reflect on a time you helped someone and felt really good about it. Keep that experience in mind as you’re framing your ask.
"Asking for help will make me look stupid and/or weak."
Dropping truth: Just reflecting on your request or question long enough to consider how to pose it to others can provide valuable insight about your issue.
"People won’t understand what I want and I’ll have to do the thing myself anyways."
Dropping truth: If people don’t understand what you’re asking for, then maybe you don’t understand your problem. Discussing it with someone else could grant much-needed clarity.
Tip: Break your request down into many simple pieces. You might find you need to ask a bunch of different people for assistance instead of dropping everything on one person.
"Asking for help will make me seem bossy."
Dropping truth: It will do that only if you do it wrong.
Tip: Bouchard recommends turning your request into a conversation where you and your friend come up with solutions together, which helps make the exchange rewarding and respectful.
"There’s never an appropriate time to ask for help."
Dropping truth: You have to make the time.
Tip: Bouchard recommends carving out time for your team to discuss problems and support one another. This breaks down the perceived hierarchy between the helper helping and the person in need. In this scenario, everyone plays both roles.
"I can avoid rejection by making people feel obligated to help me."
Dropping truth: Imposing on people will make them less willing to help you.
Grant explains that the goodness associated with helping fades when people feel obligated, controlled, or manipulated.
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Journalists use the AP style guide for news stories. Fiction and non-fiction writers use the Chicago Manual of Style (CMS) to edit their pieces. Legal eagles use the Bluebook for their professional correspondence. And now, inclusive communicators use the Responsible Communication Style Guide as their go-to reference on race, gender, sexuality, well-being, and religion. Why responsible communication matters Knowing your audience is a universal best practice for practically all communication. That doesn’t mean just knowing who they are. It also means knowing what will resonate with them and also what might totally turn them off. Here are just a few examples of the awkwardness that can result when communicators have no idea what makes their audience tick:
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